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I'm not exactly sure where it started but somewhere along the line of human
history, losing one's virginity became the social and personal "stepping stone" into manhood and maturity. You'll find this
standard readily promoted in countless movies, TV shows, and other pop-culture mediums today as well in real life. Apparently
a guy (I guess girls are exempt from this one) isn't a "man" until he has sex with a girl. My question is where
did this "hurdle" idea of sexual conquest, and subsequent maturation, come from? Does it have any basis in reason at all?
I say no, it doesn't. (Typically this isn't associated with marriage, so we're talking about pre-marital relations here.)
When you think of a good man, a real man, what sort of qualities do you
envision? Perhaps honesty, courage, or fortitude and valor? Maybe you think of admirable attributes such as being charitable,
lovingly protective, trustworthy, and selfless. In fact, you may picture a good father or brother as the epitome of
what a real man should be; someone who is willing to sacrifice anything of his own person for the sake of his wife, his
family, or his friends. Now the way I see it, I don't find anything in the proper description of what a man is, a real
man, regarding sexual exploits at all - they are simply not necessary prerequisites. In fact, I'd argue the opposite
of a sexual Napoleon qualifies a man; a guy who willfully suppresses his carnal sexual desires for the benefit of his
potential future wife and the sanctity of that marriage. A guy that see's a girl as merely a barrier to cross in order
to gain manhood, and any that promote that particular ideal, seems to me one who is severely self-interested and has a grossly skewed
view of love and sexuality.
So I guess I'm a bit perplexed at how this so false archetype originated and
how it's continually propagated in society and pop-culture. I mean people are supposed to be smarter and more enlightened
and free minded these days right? How are we still so stuck in an archaic ideal that has no reasonable or relational
merit whatsoever? What idiot came up with the idea that you're not a man till you've had sex? Bad idea.
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